Monday, 11 May 2009

Weekend with my mother



Last week when my sister told me that she wished to visit her son in Kuala Kangsar, I offered to go back home to K.T and stay with our mother. Immediately arranged to be away, by Thursday noon I was already at the airport.



Travelling alone and feeling tired after a busy morning, I kept on yawning while waiting for the boarding time..and by the time we went aboard, I fell asleep immediately, even before the cabin crews finished their final check for the take off!

..ha ha ha...typical of me, my family would say :-)



I had a good time with my mother, we managed to spend some quality hours together...which was quite rare as whenever I went back I would normally be busy tending to the kids or do any other chores.

So with only the two of us for a few days, we had more time to talk ~ share stories and jokes, watched tv and even had the chance to take her out few times - visited her cousin on Friday, went out for high-tea on Saturday and on Sunday morning wanted to have her eyes checked but the specialist was too busy. We ended up in town and bought sun glasses for her!



Saturday's high tea was at Primula but mum was very reluctant to go at first. Had to persuade her and said that it was my treat for mother's day..by the end of it, she loved it and yesterday, just before I left for K.L, she said would love to go again..he he he..."no problem mak!".



Breakfast on Sunday was "nasi goreng ayam" (fried rice with chicken) and we were watching morning TV when I saw an artist giving flowers to her mum, so I said to her that I didnt have any flowers to give, but InsyaAllah I'd always have her in my doa (wishes and prayers)~ for everything to be good to her, and for her to be happy, now and hereafter...

I think she appreciates it more....



mmm..I'm back in K.L now...but I still remember what she said the other day.. that its important for children to always keep in touch with their parents, talk to them while still can...would miss the chance once they are gone...

I hope she'll be with us for many more years, in good health and good spirit...in the blessings of Allah S.W.T always...ameen..


Saturday, 9 May 2009

Being a mother




A story to share :


*****************************

After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to
take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She
said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves
you and would love to spend some time with you.'

* * *
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit
was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20 years,
but the demands of my work and my two boys had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

* * *
That night I called to invite her to go out for
dinner and a movie.
* * *
'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?
* * *

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a
late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign
of bad news.
* * *
'I thought it would be pleasant to spend some
time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.'
She thought about it for a moment, and then said,
'I would like that very much.'

* * *
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick
her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her
house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous
about our date. She waited in the door. She had curled her hair and was wearing the
dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
birthday on November 19th.
* * *
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an
angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go
out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said,
as she got into that new white van. 'They can't wait to hear about our date'.

* * *
We went to a restaurant that, although not
elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my
arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat
down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only
read large print. Half way through the entries, I
lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at
me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I
who used to have to read the menu when you were
small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and
let me return the favor,' I responded.
* * *
During the dinner, we had an agreeable
conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching up
on recent events of each other's life. We talked so
much that we missed the movie.

* * *
As we arrived at her house later, she said,
'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you.' I agreed.



* * *
'How was your dinner date ?'
asked my wife when I got home.
'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,'
I answered.
* * *
A few days later, my mother died of a massive
heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't
have a chance to do anything for her.



* * *
Some time later, I received an envelope with a
copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place
mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I
paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two
plates - one for you and the other for your wife.
THANKS TO HER

You will never know what that night meant for me.
I love you, son.'



* * *
At that moment, I understood the importance of
saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved
ones the time that they deserve and displaying LOVE by showing them that we accept their partners.

Nothing in life is
more important than your family.

Give them the time and the credit
they deserve, because these things cannot be put off
till 'some other time.'

* * *



* * *
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back
to normal after you've had a baby..... somebody
doesn't know that once you're a mother,
'normal' is history.
* * *
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by
instinct .. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
* * *
Somebody said being a mother is boring ....
somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're a'good' mother,
your child will 'turn out good'....
somebody thinks a child comes with
directions and a guarantee.
* * *


Somebody said you don't need an education to be a
mother.... somebody never helped a fourth grader
with his math.
* * *
Somebody said you can't love the second child as
much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't
have two children.
* * *



Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother
is labor and delivery....
somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus
for the first day of kindergarten ..
or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'
* * *
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her
child gets married....somebody doesn't know that
marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a
mother's heartstrings.




* * *
Somebody said a mother's job is done when
her last child leaves home...

somebody never had grandchildren.
* * *
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so
you don't need to tell her....
somebody isn't a mother.





Pass this along to all the 'mothers' in your life
and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't
just about being a mother; it's about appreciating
the people in your life while you have them....no
matter who that person is.

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