Thursday, 29 September 2011

September notes - 2

In my life's diary, 17th. September also marked as the day my father passed away many years ago. Receiving his not so good health status for few days prior to that day, I finally made the way home with my brother the day before (and glad that we did so even though my mother said he was okay).

Given the permission to take half day leave, we left after lunch hour. Upon reaching home at almost mid-night my mother woke him up, said I was there, and he smiled acknowledging it. That night I slept beside his bed, sometimes holding to his hand..not realising then it was for the last time, the last night that he'd be with us.

I'd actually made the trip home on Merdeka weekend break a couple of weeks before with my good friend Chom (and I think her mum as well). I remember the morning before we drove back to K.L, I cooked my father's favourite "mee goreng" (fried noodle), and whilst feeding him, my mother urged me to hurry and take my breakfast in the kitchen as she didn't want me to be late making the 7 hours (plus) journey back.

A man of few words, my father just smiled when I said I wanted to have breakfast with him.

Still fresh in my mind that before I left, I was a bit reluctant and somehow kept on hugging him, saying I'd be back soon few times until an elderly relative (now had passed away as well) told me to leave (and I admit that I was quite hurt then by that Pakcik's words..hehe)

and 17 days later..Alhamdulillah, I was glad that I could be there in his last hours of need, during his last breath, did the necessary...and able to be there with my mum and siblings.

Somehow my last visit to his final resting place on "Raya Enam" (8th day of Syawal) before I came back to K.L prompted this posting. I was still sad being there, but I know it was his time to go back to his Creator, his Owner.

mmm...I guess I'm ready to recall and write about it as my attempts before went into the bin..

I'm blessed to have him as a father..and I hope I'd been a good daughter to him during his lifetime. InsyaAllah I'll keep on praying for him.

The Prophet (pbuh) was once asked by a companion: "O messenger of Allah! Are there any deeds that I could do to be of service to my parents after they have passed away?"

The Prophet (pbuh), replied: "Yes there are: you should supplicate for them and ask Allah to forgive them; you should carry out (fulfill) their promises; you should maintain good relations with your relatives ; and you should honour their friends."

(Abu Dawud, Ibn Majah and Ibn Hibban)

"May the mercy and blessings of Allah SWT be upon his soul"..amiin.



thomas said...

a month to remember but it's good to be by his side when he left.

absolutely emy said...

(-_-) Sedih..

I'm glad i had my moment with my late father too.. tapi tak ada kekuatan untuk diblogkan.. dan sehingga hari ini baju kurung yang saya pakai semasa terima call yang ayah saya masuk hospital pun saya tak berani pakai..

Al-Manar said...

Dimana Arwah meninggal, dibelakang masjid Hiliran atau di Losing?

Memang sedih mengimbas masa masa dulu terutma kehilangn yang tersayang.

Sebenarnya saya bookmark blog yng satu lagi. Selalu saya jengok, tak berubah. Cerita lama. Ini lah masalah kalau ada lebih dari satu blog. Pelawat tk tahu yang mana ada update.

ninotaziz said...

Dearest Ona,
This blog really brings to mind my own loss. You were lucky, you got to spend your last night together.


By the way, I just love the way you write.

Cheqna said...


It surely was a privileged to be by his side.

Cheqna said...


InsyaAllah you'll find the right moment to jot it down somewhere one day.

Cheqna said...

Pakcik Al-Manar,

Arwah dikebumi di Losong..dekat je dengan rumah.

Hehe..its easier to update this blog as I can share whatever fancy me at that point in time, a place for me to write the not so serious things.

But for other blogs I normally need to "check" the facts/info, not simply share whatever comes my way...don't want to distribute wrong facts on religious matters.

I hope I haven't done that, na'uzubillahi min zalik

Cheqna said...

Ninot dearest,

I hope the losses can make us stronger spiritually, insyaAllah.

ohh..u make me shy one, compared to you I'm at the other end of the stick, hehe..I don't normally like to post serious matters..

Lets have fun in blogging..n TQ for coming over here!



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